The death of someone we love or are close to is never an easy thing to come to terms with. A personally meaningful funeral or memorial service, which truly honours the deceased, can help the grief process. It can form a focus for memories and emotions, and allow those who are left behind to begin to say goodbye.
I offer funeral and memorial services over a wide area, covering most of Dumfries & Galloway, some of South Lanarkshire, the western part of The Borders and the northerly part of Cumbria.
What you can expect from me
I aim to offer a professional, respectful and heart-centred service. My role is to bring together the sometimes disparate beliefs and spiritual perspectives of the deceased, their family and close friends, into one loving, inclusive and beautiful ceremony.
I meet with the bereaved following a death, to help them to become clear about what kind of funeral or memorial is appropriate, taking into account both the desires and beliefs of the deceased and the needs and beliefs of the bereaved.
Where possible and appropriate, I encourage family members and friends to write and read the eulogy and to be involved in other aspects of the funeral, to make it truly personal, and a real reflection and celebration of their loved one’s life.
I can also assist individuals with writing a pre-funeral plan. This is not a legally binding document, but reflects the wishes of the individual for their funeral and disposition of their remains. People often choose this option to avoid unnecessary worry for their families after death, or if they have particular desires for their funeral.
Some questions it may be useful to consider when planning a funeral
- Did the deceased leave any instructions regarding their funeral? (This may be in their will or with their solicitor.)
- Is a cremation or a burial planned? If a burial, will this be at a cemetery, in a woodland burial site or elsewhere?
- Did the deceased have any strong religious or other beliefs?
- What were their favourite pieces of music, poetry or religious texts?
- Are there any charities or causes that they particularly supported to which people can give donations in their memory?
- Do you want to include time for people to share their memories of the person who has died, either in the funeral itself or at a later gathering?
Funeral service £130 — this fee includes planning meetings, telephone calls with family and friends not able to be at planning meetings, and writing and conducting the ceremony.
Pre-funeral plan £80 — this fee includes one or two planning meetings, the writing of the ceremony, and liaison by telephone and/or email to ensure you are happy with the ceremony provided.
Expenses In addition to the funeral service or pre-funeral planning fee, expenses are payable for travel costs (45p per mile or standard fare public transport).
If you have any queries or questions about how I can work with you, do get in touch by calling 07799 468309, or send me an email.